*MNAR NOTES: When the following obituary was received, it was evident that it belonged in the nightmare stories section of our website. Suicide is the ultimate nightmare. The obituary tells of a four year struggle with Minnesota Alimony Law in the Courts. Four years! Why can’t we have a law with more structure, guidelines and predicability, so such long drawn out divorces can be avoided? When Steve Hitner of Massachusetts Alimony Reform was consulted about this obituary this morning(having 14 years of experience with these stories), he offered this analysis:
“After reading the obituary below, it occurred to me that I never see an obituary of a spouse who has lost their alimony chose to commit suicide. All over the country, including in Massachusetts, payors of alimony feel so helpless and frustrated that their only way out is to end the pain by committing suicide.
It is easy to sympathize with a person who was counting on never having to work again suddenly faced with the prospect of being self supportive. There must also be sympathy for a payer having to support someone well into their 80’s or 90’s.”
The following article recently appeared on the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette